On December 21, 2016 at 12:05pm, the clouds parted and the angels
sang…I had officially survived my first semester as an elementary school
counselor!!! It was
everything I thought it would be and nothing I was prepared for, all rolled
into one. My biggest
blessing in my new career, has to be the school in which I am getting to
serve. Moving to a new
building, after seven amazing years at my previous campus was SCARY, but I
truly have won the School Counseling lottery!!! My new campus has be so warm,
welcoming and forgivingπ. It
has truly been an unexpected blessing!
Melanie over at Stylish School Counselor and my fabulous AP, interviewed my
last week about my first semester and how I felt about it. One of the things that she asked me
was what advice I would give to new counselors. This questions gave me pause, because
truly, who I am to give advice to anyone?!?!? But here is what I came up with…these
are the things that helped my to stay focused and positive (most of time anyway
π)
Find your
person, both on campus and off. Someone to
talk to, cry with, laugh with and keep you accountable. They should also be a person to tell
you when you are being unreasonable and need to get over it π.
Don’t be afraid
to say that you don’t know.
– I PROMISE – you will say it A LOT! I
know I have (am). My sweet
office staff always tells me that I have a year to say, “I’m new, “so I should
take advantage.
Try out as many
documentation/organization systems as you need to, to come up with what works
for you – I have spent money on TPT, I have scoured blogs, pinterest,
talked to other counselors, visited other counselors and talked to the SPED
department on my campus (NEVER underestimate the value of your Special
Education Department! They
are a WEALTH of information!)
FOLLOW THROUGH
– no matter what – You are building your reputation with
staff, students and parents, they are counting on you.
SAY SORRY –
when something comes up and you can’t follow through until laterπ -
this is the only guarantee in school counseling – nothing is guaranteed! I create a schedule every week,
really, it is more of a guideline for my week. Creating a schedule helps
me to refocus when things go off book.
Don’t be afraid
to ask questions – LOTS OF QUESTIONS! – everyone was new once! Take advatage of what I like to call, "The year of grace." Write down every question, and ask away!
Schedule time
during your day for programming – YOU have to do this for yourself, no one will do it for you. On the contrary, if you do not schedule time in your day for programming, your schedule will be filled for you. Scheduling program management time will force you to stop and
plan, document, and/or collaborate, as needed, to ulitmately better serve your building.
Laugh A LOT! – In our profession, some days do not
seem like there is anything to laugh about. The stories that we hear and the lives
that support can make our heart’s heavy. It is those days especially, that we
have to look for those things that make us laugh and smile.
If you are not
humble already, you will be…and that is ok – Nothing is more humbling then entering
into a job where every day you leave with more questions than when you started.
I have a list going of questions that I have or things I want to learn about
and every time I cross something off my list, I notice that I have added two
more things…that is humbling. I
told my husband that I was looking forward to the day that I leave work and
feel like I was able to answer someone else’s questions for a change π.
Practice
empathy – EVERYDAY – While I am always busy, always moving, I
have to remember that, SO IS EVERYONE ELSE! I work in a school for goodness
sake! Everyone is busy and
everyone is working on important things. I might not understand the nuisances
of everyone’s particular job, but I understand that, to them, their job is
everything.
This list is not
only my advice to others but they are reminders for me. I ended the original list by saying that I
could go on and on… so now I willπ.
Be visible – I try and begin each day greeting
students in the back of our campus, then snake my way through the building,
checking on students and popping in classrooms. I try to not always see
kids in my office, I like to go to them as well.
Create
a Testing Team (thank you to Marty Barbieri, our district
counseling
Director) – this is super important,
especially in Texas! With
elementary counselors also being the campus testing coordinator, it becomes
vital to have a team in place that works together to tackle the beast that is
testing! Marty explains like this - there are too
many components with testing, for one person to be solely responsible, when
that is not their only responsibility. The
team needs to be cross trained in all areas, for not only accountability and
support, but to prevent a crisis if something were to happen to the testing
coordinator on testing days. (Could
you EVEN imagine, being solely responsible for testing then having something
happen that prevents you from being there on a testing day ?!?!)
Write your WHY – Putting to words, WHY you do what you do is such a powerful
focus point, when things get difficult. It
is your professional compass, so to speak.
NEVER forget
what it was like to be in the classroom – I cannot stress this enough! And I want someone to remind me of
this if I ever forget. Teachers
are everything! We do not
get to be School Counselors, if not for teachers. We are there to support them and their
students, so that they can provide an unforgettable educational
experience. Teachers are
the front line, every day and no matter how busy, stressed and overwhelmed I
am, it does not compare to the job that they do.
Well, this is my
advice and I can honestly say that all of these things have helped me to survive
this first semester and will continue to carry me long into the future!
What advice you would give to new counselors?